“My Wife Taught Me How To Love Her” — Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo Spills Truth About Marriage
OpenLife Nigeria reports that Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo, one of Nigeria’s most celebrated relationship coaches, has sparked a wave of conversation after sharing a candid glimpse into his marriage that many are calling raw honesty.
In a recent interview, Okonkwo revealed that while he cared deeply for his wife, he didn’t always know how to show it in the ways she needed. Reflecting on their early days of dating, he said:
“My wife had to teach me how to love her. When we were dating, if I saw her on a Monday, I wouldn’t call her again until I was seeing her next. She practically told me, ‘See, you have to be calling me. I grew up in a family of 5 boys, the only female in the family was my mom and she is soldier, not an average Nigerian woman, so I didn’t have the emotional stuff.’”
Okonkwo explained that growing up surrounded by brothers and a disciplined mother meant he never naturally developed the emotional side that romantic relationships demand. It wasn’t instinct but patient guidance from his wife that helped him learn how to truly connect, communicate, and show love consistently.
His openness has resonated widely, proving that even relationship experts can learn valuable lessons from their partners.
Okonkwo’s story underscores a universal truth: love is not just a feeling it’s a skill that can be taught, nurtured, and refined.
Social media users and fans have praised the pastor for his vulnerability, calling his reflection both relatable and inspiring.
His journey from emotionally reserved to emotionally attentive serves as a reminder that marriage requires humility, patience, and a willingness to learn from one another.

