Date Three Or More Men At A Time To Find the One God Chooses” — Pastor Ebuka Obi’s Viral Sermon On Modern Dating Ignites Firestorm

Date Three Or More Men At A Time To Find the One God Chooses

 

OpenLife Nigeria reports that popular Nigerian evangelist Evangelist Ebuka Obi (also known as Chukwuebuka Anozie Obi) has ignited widespread online conversations with his straightforward counsel on romantic relationships directed at single women in a recent sermon.

In a widely circulated video clip originally posted on X by @honest30bgfan
, the cleric urged women not to emotionally commit exclusively to one man unless clear marriage intentions have been declared.

He advocated for a prayer-guided approach where women could interact with and evaluate several potential partners simultaneously, stressing the importance of maintaining physical boundaries.

“Date four, five, six men. Just make sure you don’t sleep with any of them. You can even be considering three at a time to find the one God will choose,” he said.

He further clarified that communicating with multiple suitors is permissible in the absence of explicit commitment from any party, and that true exclusivity should commence only upon engagement rather than in casual dating phases.

The evangelist challenged the common pattern of women investing unwavering loyalty in partners who avoid discussions about marriage, family introductions, or long-term plans.“When God has chosen the right one, that person will take the step to propose,” he added.This message has triggered polarized responses across social media platforms.

Detractors argue that it promotes unhealthy relational dynamics or contradicts traditional values, while supporters commend it for encouraging discernment, self-respect, and avoidance of prolonged uncertainty in courtship.

WHO IS EVANGELIST EBUKA OBI?

Evangelist Chukwuebuka Anozie Obi, popularly called Ebuka Obi, is a prominent Nigerian preacher, prophet, gospel singer, author, and teacher. Born on October 16, 1980, as a twin in Ubulu-Ihejiofor, Oru West Local Government Area of Imo State, he grew up in a devoted Roman Catholic household.From a young age around eight years old he reportedly began experiencing spiritual revelations and encounters.

Before fully embracing ministry, he engaged in business, trading electrical equipment in Lagos. In 2009, he founded the Zion Prayer Movement Outreach (ZPMO), a non-denominational prayer-focused ministry headquartered in Ago-Okota, Lagos. What began modestly has expanded significantly, with claims of over 170 branches worldwide.
Obi positions ZPMO not as a conventional church but as a prayer movement. Notably, the ministry does not collect tithes, conduct baptisms, weddings, or fundraisers like bazaars, emphasizing spiritual deliverance, healing, and prophetic ministration instead.

Beyond preaching, he established the Seraphic Home Foundation, which supports vulnerable groups including widows, orphans, the sick, destitute, and homeless. He also founded Seraphic Hospital, a modern medical and maternity facility in Lagos providing quality care accessible to diverse patients.

His programs, such as the daily “Night of Open Heaven” online prayers, “Holyghost Court” for family reconciliation, and the annual 100 Days Prayers fasting crusade, attract millions globally, blending intense prayer sessions with testimonies of miracles and breakthroughs.

TEACHINGS AND PATTERN

Obi’s ministry is characterized by bold, direct teachings that often address practical life issues, including relationships, spiritual warfare, deliverance from demonic influences, and personal accountability. He frequently delivers candid advice on moral and social matters, urging believers to prioritize God’s guidance over societal pressures or emotional attachments.

His style is prophetic and unfiltered he emphasizes discernment through prayer, warns against deception (including in relationships), and promotes purity while encouraging proactive steps in faith. This approach resonates with many seeking straightforward spiritual direction but has also drawn criticism, including debates over his independence from formal Catholic structures (despite his roots) and occasional controversies surrounding miracle claims or testimonies in his services.

Despite criticisms, his influence continues to grow, driven by viral clips, massive online followings, and reports of transformed lives through prayer and counsel.

In an era where dating culture often leads to prolonged ambiguity and emotional investment without commitment, Evangelist Ebuka Obi’s advice challenges single women (and by extension, men) to seek clarity, protect their hearts, and rely on divine direction rather than settling for uncertainty. Whether viewed as pragmatic wisdom or controversial, the sermon underscores ongoing societal discussions about intentionality, boundaries, and faith in modern relationships.

As debates persist, it serves as a reminder that guidance on love and marriage remains deeply personal, cultural, and spiritual prompting individuals to reflect prayerfully on their own paths toward fulfilling partnerships.